Being too loud, being too quiet, and what would Goldilocks say?

AHA'S AND ACTION:

Here are 2 thoughts, 2 inspirations, and 1 question for you to reflect on this week…

2 THOUGHTS FROM ME

1. There have been times in my life when I’ve spoken up too quickly—cut someone off, defended myself, pushed my point. And other times when I’ve said nothing at all—swallowed my feelings, stayed silent to keep the peace. Neither one felt quite right.

What I’ve come to realize is that wisdom often lives in the middle. Not in the extremes, but in the space where I pause. Where I breathe. Where I listen to what’s really needed—by me, and by the person in front of me. It’s not about being loud or quiet. It’s about being in tune.

2. Sometimes I look back on conversations and think, "Did I say too much? Did I say enough? Geez, I should’ve said that?" My personal mind loves to evaluate and second-guess. But when I’m grounded, I notice something different—I don’t have to get it perfect. I just have to show up real, listen deeply, and trust that the right words will find me when I need them.

And when I leave the conversation and something occurs to me, I can call them back or send an email or apologize – I can do whatever makes sense for me.

2 INSPIRATIONS FROM OTHER PEOPLE

1. “Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret." by Ambrose Bierce.

2. Communication expert Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, creator of Nonviolent Communication, taught that the most powerful conversations happen when we lead with empathy and clarity—not volume or silence, but presence.

1 QUESTION FOR YOU

1. In your relationships, where might you be showing up too loudly… or staying too quiet—and what might the just right version of you sound like?

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