Problems, Solutions, and Turning Up the Heat.

AHA'S AND ACTION:

Here are 2 thoughts, 2 inspirations, and 1 question for you to reflect on this week…

2 THOUGHTS FROM ME

1. Imagine your house is freezing. You could spend days sealing every draft, replacing the windows, stuffing insulation into every corner—or you could just turn up the heat.

It’s the same in relationships. You can focus on all the little problems—who said what, what didn’t get done, how things should be—or… you can just turn up the warmth. Be a little kinder. Say something loving. Offer patience instead of judgment. What I’ve noticed is, when the “emotional heat” gets turned up, most of the little problems disappear on their own.

2. Admittedly, both Dave and I fall into this trap of ‘keeping score’ from time to time, but luckily, it’s pretty rare. What I have noticed is when I focus on problems, I always create more tension. When I let go of fixing and shift into love and presence, the solutions often reveal themselves. I don’t need to figure it all out—I just need to turn up the feeling.

2 INSPIRATIONS FROM OTHER PEOPLE

1. “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” by Lao Tzu.

2. Psychologist and author George Pransky teaches that when we drop judgment and bring warmth into a relationship, it becomes a more resourceful system—one where both people are naturally more understanding, connected, and creative.

1 QUESTION FOR YOU

1. Where in your relationship are you focused on getting the short end of the stick—and what might happen if you simply filled up your heart with love and patience?

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